Merry Christmas

I wanted to take a moment to wish you a Merry Christmas. I thought it would be important to remind you the significance of gratefulness. Many people have been frustrated and stressed over the last few days scrambling to buy gifts, travel to family gatherings and buying the kids gifts just to see them smile. I want you to consider taking a moment to look around, not to think of things you do not have, but to look at what you do have. Breath is a starting point. Be grateful today for life. Be grateful for those you do life with, who made it to this day still as an active part of your life. Be grateful for shelter and food. Be grateful for anyone that you have an opportunity to love and to share love with. Me personally, I am grateful that God saw it fit to send His Only begotten son, wrap him in a human body and commission Him to be the sacrifice that would give me access to salvation. Be grateful during this holiday season. ‘Tis the season to be jolly! Merry Christmas From my family to yours.

Aquila T Carmon

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My Daughter’s Motivation

How many of us have ever found motivation from frustration? Have you ever been motivated by difficulty in reaching a goal, obtaining a level of achievement or making something happen when it feels like you don’t have much of anything to make it with.  Has failure ever motivated you to the place where you say this will be the last time I find myself in this situation?

My most recent motivation came from my seven year old daughter.  I wish I could say that it came from watching her do something amazing or seeing her not give up. Those are always great moments that motivate me to do and be better.  Unfortunately, not this time.  I was picking her up from after care along with my two five year old sons.  She came running to the car with an amazing amount of excitement and I begin to think, boy she has been in there having fun!! She runs up to the passenger side but today she didn’t reach for the back door to get in. She says, “Daddy, Daddy you have to come inside the school for the Winter festival!!” At that moment I’m thinking, “OH NO, What did I miss?” Knowing that this is about to be a hard conversation I reply, “baby we can’t, I have to go back to work.”

So far there are two dilemmas.  The first, not knowing this winter festival is taking place because I didn’t read through all of the teacher’s communications. The second is that my daughter really wants me to attend this event but I’m on the particular day I am scheduled to work the late shift even though I have been working since 8am to catch up on unfinished assignments and to meet fast approaching deadlines.

So my baby girl who sometimes will make it known she is upset and sad breaks down to cry.  Not an “I am mad” kind of cry.  But a “This is the most disappointing thing ever” kind of cry.  My heart is pierced to the point that if I wasn’t a grown man I would have cried with her.  I immediately become angry that I haven’t “made it” yet.  I become angry because I have been exposed to opportunities that if I had worked and pushed years ago I would be financially free by now.  I become angry because my job, as important as, it is should not be putting my in a position to chose an income over my children. Not in 2018 when people are making six figures in their 20’s. I became so angry that I became motivated. You see she cried until I promised her Chinese food and a bag of takis.

You see, as I begin to promise her some of her favorite things.  I began to promise myself some things too. I promised myself that I would not stop building my own business until it is a business that will provide for them what my kids need.  That it will produce the type of residual income that will afford me options. The Word of God says in Ecclesiastes 10:19 “A feast is made for laughter, wine makes life merry and money answers all things.” You see money unlocks options.  It provides opportunities and choices for us.  Its the difference of where you get your education, how you spend your time and who you spend it with.  It can determine how you can get out of your normal routine and rest or if you have to work 2-3 jobs to make it.  I’ve pulled countless double shifts, stayed in terrible hotels, hoped for a ride to come and the “friend” never showed up.  My father and mother are the hardest working people I know. But they taught me to get hired on a job, pay the bills, take two weekend trips a year, then rinse and repeat. I have no desire to leave my children with the burden of being routed and steered by society. Neither would I have them facing road blocks, rejected credit and a limitation of resources because I refused to exist outside of the box that I have grown up to know.  I desire to leave them with a way to fund their dreams and a way to finance the cost of their goals. Sometimes we are waiting for a miracle after God has given us a resource to produce right here in our hands and our minds.

My daughter’s tears became another motivator for me to be better and to do better.  My daughter’s tears have motivated me to revisit my dreams and push for them.  They motivate me to build and work more intensely in ministry and for my community for the children who don’t have the parents that say “Baby everything’s going to be alright!”

Be motivated, stay encouraged and know that anything is possible. Nothing worth building is built overnight. It may take all you’ve got to build it but build it none the less. Build your Church, build your marriage, build your business, build relationships. Build yourself until you can look at your life and know you’ve given God and the people he has entrusted you to impact all you were meant to give.

Aquila T Carmon

Why I Have To…..

Why I Have to Succeed….

 

I Am a Husband – I have vowed to honor my wife with my life even If it means laying this life down for hers. I am her strength, a foundation on which she should be able to stand in recognition of God’s command to cleave to her as her husband. I am purposed be the Visionary of this family developing the ability to navigate us through uncertainty.  I must know where I am going and how I will get there. I must understand the relentless effort it will take and know that I will be challenged to quit. But I cannot allow the head to be removed leaving the body to drift aimlessly. I must, for the sake of my wife, run towards a goal with fierce ambition.  Satisfying her is my responsibility.  I must position myself to provide spiritually, financially, emotionally and physically. It will be impossible for me to do this buried under the agendas that are forced into my life just to provide in that one specified area of life.  Especially while this provisionary sustenance is limited to someone’s opinion of my value.  I need to become, while I have strength and life, the one helping secure our lives now for the future. My marriage should not be an component of debt nor acclimated to tiresome getaways never experiencing a real vacation.  To be stress less is a major key to happiness and happiness along with early retirement is what I desire to gift myself and my wife with. 

 

I Am a Father – I have 3 small children depending and watching my every move. My goal as a father first guaranteeing that all their needs are present. The second goal is preparing and securing their futures for their futures. I refuse to wonder if college or even a choice of college is an option. As a father I must create an income that will ensure if my grave finds me early my kids will know all needs are met. I desire to finance their dreams along with mine. I need them to see that building is possible and not just dreaming. Entrepreneurship is accesses limitless possibilities and will build a residual beyond myself and becomes a resource for my children. I need them to see success demonstrated in their home and break the cycle of struggle! I have a responsibility to protect my family and position us in the best place for continued growth and personal well-being.

 

I Am a Pastor – I have always resented the idea of preaching hope and struggling behind it.  “Let there be light” Light that people around me can be inspired to live life to the fullest.  Light that won’t cause fear of growth or stepping out beyond the artificial safety of normal and familiar.  I am in pursuance of the manifestation of God’s blessing in all that I put my hands to do.  It’s vital that my testimony of God’s blessing be made open, visible and transparent, so that those who are hungry for me may believe. I thank God that have joy and peace but God as much desires that I also experience wealth and wellness in every area of my life.

 

I am a Son – Let me be the son that makes my father prouder than he already is. As a black man our fathers long to see us find success in this world that has been so cruel and eager to those that have carried this color of skin in times past.  He longs to see me find success in my home, family and ministry. As an individual he wants to see me go much further than opportunities presented to him. Building a Residual income, creating multiple streams of income is the way to do it.

 

I am an Individual – Everyone who wants anything out of life is searching for something that can make them somebody with value.  I have a countless list of failures in my past and I am eager to represent my life in a different manner. I have a need to grow in the “accomplishments section” of my life.  I have too many dreams that haven’t been fulfilled and I refuse to die with them.  To be able to work in ministry full time is a must because that is what fulfills me.  I live with a servant’s heart and seeing the needs of others impresses on me sense of urgency to make a difference. My heart benefits tremendously when I see others benefit from demonstration of love.

 

The highest quality of me is met when achieving what those who have gone before me have not and what those who are with me wish to achieve. The highest quality of me is the man who helps others achieve beyond what their present potential suggests of them.  When I have learned to soar above where the trials, troubles and distractions of life would rather keep me grounded I have achieved the highest quality of me.  This includes placing the success of others as a priority since I have no desire to rise alone so that we all reach glory as one. That’s what I live for. That is my “WHY.”  I believe if I live and work at the highest quality of me today, I know I will reach the highest quality of me that I dream of.  

I’d like to know what it is that motivates you. When is the last time you thought about your “why?” Maybe, just maybe it’s time to revisit why you do what you do or why you should do what you haven’t done. 

 God Bless You, 

Aquila T Carmon