Robert H. Frank Wrote, “Trusting others puts us at risk. Yet failure to trust entails risk as well. The ability to navigate through this minefield successfully is one of life’s most valuable assets.”
I believe that the powerful ability to trust others effectively is directly connected success in business, relationships, development and life. Mentors, spouses, children, partners and friends are people we should be able to trust. Yet all of us in some aspect have encountered broken trust within these affiliations. Many different examples exist as to how this trust is broken but the ways to regain our ability to trust again is a common path. I cannot promise you that these steps will fix it all but I believe this can help you move in the direction to trust again.
1. Clearly and directly communicate what you feel to the person who broke the trust. This is your responsibility, because no matter how much you think they should know, they may have no idea what they’ve done.
2. Forgive them! Because healing cannot take place nor will you be able to trust effectively again until you forgive the one who broke the trust. Without forgiveness two things will be discovered. You will not be able to reconnect properly to that person who wronged you. That could even mean disconnecting from them socially and still not finding freedom in your heart from the distress they caused. Secondly your connection with God becomes distorted because of the unforgiving spirit that has found refuge in the heart.
3. Do what it takes to heal no matter if that means crying, screaming, praying or running around the house a few times. Remind yourself that all things good and bad mix together to forge strength and character within you. Avoid blaming yourself for someone else’s actions. Always remember that God has been, is and always will be with you. Reach for His hand of heealing and know that your best interests are in His plans even through the challenge.
4. Work with everything in you to become a person that people can trust because you understand the significance of needing to trust someone else without reservations.