The Making of Moments

The word moment is defined as a very brief period of time or an opportunity.

Over Sunday Dinner I engaged in a conversation discussing with Father in law and my sister in law’s boyfriend regarding things we remember from our past. Ironically this post refers to how we only remember certain things concerning our yesterdays and needless to say, I can’t remember exactly how the conversation began.  What I do know is that we were in agreement.  We are unable to go back in our minds, press rewind and again see the clips we missed.  Nope, everything’s spotty and we only remember moments. Have you ever tried to go back to your childhood and remember a whole situation play by play.  If you can then I commend you for tapping into a part of your memory muscles that many of us cannot.

For example, I can remember acting out the role of a Lion in a 3rd grade play in the library at Grifton Elementary School. I recall the sun shining through the blinds and my mother showing up to support me.  I had one line the entire play which was “I don’t care” until at the very end something caused me to finally say “I care.” What I can’t remember is other classmate who was in that short play with me. I remember the time while in high school we performed a play for the elementary school kids. I played the lead role as a King who allowed someone to sale him a royal outfit persuading him that it was of the most well-designed and extravagant outfit people would ever lay eyes on. But my friends, the kicker was the outfit was invisible. I remember not one line from that play 20 years ago, but I recall walking out on that wide wooden stage in my loud underwear covered in big yellow smiley faces and watching those kids go wild!! Oh, What an incredible memory.  I played baseball for fifteen years, but I can only remember certain moments of certain games.  I travailed through boot came for thirteen weeks but the moments I can remember are very few and in between. The only vivid recollection is when the Eagle, Globe and Anchor was placed in my hand and in that moment, I had achieved my greatest accomplishment ever.  I wish I could remember more moments with some of the loved one’s I’ve lost or some of the people I grew up, but I can’t.  You see I understand that all of my experiences in some way has helped shape me into who I am today, but they all didn’t make the cut to the memorable moments team.

I think the value of memory is neglected by our own desire to make tomorrow more valuable than yesterday.  I hear some many people say, “the past is in the past” or “you can’t change the past”. True!! All True! But remember that every day we are present, we are creating a past. So, it is vital my friends, to recognize that your future and your past are impacted by your present.

It is in The NOW, where you must make moments for your family that will become positive and powerful memories.  When both of my grandmothers were buried, the moments I recalled during their funerals were full of warmth, love, wisdom and peacefulness. Their homes were a safe-shaven for everyone.  What moments are you leaving for your family to remember you? What moments will your family have to Cherish? Are you teaching those around you to create good moments? Your destiny, your fulfillment of purpose and your legacy is built by the way you manage the moments.

Recollections of great moments remember the emotion and overwhelming love when you held your first child for the first time. It is when you understood the pressure to be an amazing parent when wiping your child’s tears and lifting their head up. It is when you feel purpose fueling when leading a lost soul to salvation. It’s like seeing your father stand again after doctors said he would die. It is the hearing someone tell you simply that you have helped them become better.  These moments keep us grounded. Seeing impossible things become possible are monumental reminders, in the moments we forget that everything really is going to be ok.

Today, Moments are ready to be made. Which means it is important for us to make our decisions count. Whether big or small make them count.  Because when someone stands over our casket it will be good for them to lose us knowing that we gave them the best of who we are.

The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy. ~ Dr Martin Luther King Jr.

God Bless you,

Aquila T Carmon

 

The Other Side of the Door: Credit Tips

So, what happens on the other side of the door? You know, while you’ve went to a car dealership, applied for a loan online or anytime you are waiting for someone to run your credit and make the approval decision for your loan.

First your personal information will be pulled and placed into a system that will scan and analyze your credit report. Then it will provide the creditor some feedback based on your score and general items on whether you should be approved.  This system will analyze items such as credit scores from Equifax, Transunion and Experian, the number or accounts, how many are delinquent accounts, how long have you had the accounts open, how many late payments and your debt to income ratio based on the income information you decided.

Depending on where you apply would determine if an automated decision will be the final factor for you.  However, some creditors will take the next step, put human eyes on your credit report and begin to discuss with the finance manager if there are things that must be considered. You wondered while the salesman was probing? he was trying to get to know a few things about you to include in that “credit conversation.” Quick insert: If you have bad credit, please don’t be nasty and rude to the salesman. His opinion of you might play a part in whether the lender wants to work with you or not if your credit is already bad.

So, on the other side of the door they take a deeper look into the credit report with human eyes to determine, did it all go bad at the same time? Did a life event bring about this problem such as job loss or relocation?  Someone may even come sit with you to ask additional questions about your credit report. Trust me, I know because I am the guy that has sat across on both sides of the table. Once with bad credit and later to ask the questions.

Here are some tips before applying.

Know your credit situation:

  1. Know where you stand: Pull your credit report, know your scores and what is helping or hurting on your report and be ready to talk about it. Hopefully you are working on a plan to resolve any issues.
  2. Prepare mentally: If you have bad credit, prepare yourself for the result and remember that NO could mean, Not until a few things are fixed on your credit report. Meaning negative items removed or paid.
  3. Decrease some Debt: Pay down all credit card balances to less than 30% of use and wait for this to reflect on your report before applying for any credit.
  4. Understand that it may be best to struggle a little while longer and commit to getting your credit improved before even walking into to submit an application.

No matter where you stand in the credit world, know that you have or can take control of your credit situation. It may take some time and it is a process but by educating yourself, understanding how credit works and develop certain financial disciplines you can change how you experience as you sit on the consumer’s side of this process.

If you or someone you know has less than perfect credit. Let’s talk. Give me a call at (919)904-6960 or email me at aquilacarmon06@gmail.com. Go to www.myfes.net\acarmon1.  I am connected with a team that can help.

Aquila T Carmon

Merry Christmas

I wanted to take a moment to wish you a Merry Christmas. I thought it would be important to remind you the significance of gratefulness. Many people have been frustrated and stressed over the last few days scrambling to buy gifts, travel to family gatherings and buying the kids gifts just to see them smile. I want you to consider taking a moment to look around, not to think of things you do not have, but to look at what you do have. Breath is a starting point. Be grateful today for life. Be grateful for those you do life with, who made it to this day still as an active part of your life. Be grateful for shelter and food. Be grateful for anyone that you have an opportunity to love and to share love with. Me personally, I am grateful that God saw it fit to send His Only begotten son, wrap him in a human body and commission Him to be the sacrifice that would give me access to salvation. Be grateful during this holiday season. ‘Tis the season to be jolly! Merry Christmas From my family to yours.

Aquila T Carmon

My Daughter’s Motivation

How many of us have ever found motivation from frustration? Have you ever been motivated by difficulty in reaching a goal, obtaining a level of achievement or making something happen when it feels like you don’t have much of anything to make it with.  Has failure ever motivated you to the place where you say this will be the last time I find myself in this situation?

My most recent motivation came from my seven year old daughter.  I wish I could say that it came from watching her do something amazing or seeing her not give up. Those are always great moments that motivate me to do and be better.  Unfortunately, not this time.  I was picking her up from after care along with my two five year old sons.  She came running to the car with an amazing amount of excitement and I begin to think, boy she has been in there having fun!! She runs up to the passenger side but today she didn’t reach for the back door to get in. She says, “Daddy, Daddy you have to come inside the school for the Winter festival!!” At that moment I’m thinking, “OH NO, What did I miss?” Knowing that this is about to be a hard conversation I reply, “baby we can’t, I have to go back to work.”

So far there are two dilemmas.  The first, not knowing this winter festival is taking place because I didn’t read through all of the teacher’s communications. The second is that my daughter really wants me to attend this event but I’m on the particular day I am scheduled to work the late shift even though I have been working since 8am to catch up on unfinished assignments and to meet fast approaching deadlines.

So my baby girl who sometimes will make it known she is upset and sad breaks down to cry.  Not an “I am mad” kind of cry.  But a “This is the most disappointing thing ever” kind of cry.  My heart is pierced to the point that if I wasn’t a grown man I would have cried with her.  I immediately become angry that I haven’t “made it” yet.  I become angry because I have been exposed to opportunities that if I had worked and pushed years ago I would be financially free by now.  I become angry because my job, as important as, it is should not be putting my in a position to chose an income over my children. Not in 2018 when people are making six figures in their 20’s. I became so angry that I became motivated. You see she cried until I promised her Chinese food and a bag of takis.

You see, as I begin to promise her some of her favorite things.  I began to promise myself some things too. I promised myself that I would not stop building my own business until it is a business that will provide for them what my kids need.  That it will produce the type of residual income that will afford me options. The Word of God says in Ecclesiastes 10:19 “A feast is made for laughter, wine makes life merry and money answers all things.” You see money unlocks options.  It provides opportunities and choices for us.  Its the difference of where you get your education, how you spend your time and who you spend it with.  It can determine how you can get out of your normal routine and rest or if you have to work 2-3 jobs to make it.  I’ve pulled countless double shifts, stayed in terrible hotels, hoped for a ride to come and the “friend” never showed up.  My father and mother are the hardest working people I know. But they taught me to get hired on a job, pay the bills, take two weekend trips a year, then rinse and repeat. I have no desire to leave my children with the burden of being routed and steered by society. Neither would I have them facing road blocks, rejected credit and a limitation of resources because I refused to exist outside of the box that I have grown up to know.  I desire to leave them with a way to fund their dreams and a way to finance the cost of their goals. Sometimes we are waiting for a miracle after God has given us a resource to produce right here in our hands and our minds.

My daughter’s tears became another motivator for me to be better and to do better.  My daughter’s tears have motivated me to revisit my dreams and push for them.  They motivate me to build and work more intensely in ministry and for my community for the children who don’t have the parents that say “Baby everything’s going to be alright!”

Be motivated, stay encouraged and know that anything is possible. Nothing worth building is built overnight. It may take all you’ve got to build it but build it none the less. Build your Church, build your marriage, build your business, build relationships. Build yourself until you can look at your life and know you’ve given God and the people he has entrusted you to impact all you were meant to give.

Aquila T Carmon

Why I Have To…..

Why I Have to Succeed….

 

I Am a Husband – I have vowed to honor my wife with my life even If it means laying this life down for hers. I am her strength, a foundation on which she should be able to stand in recognition of God’s command to cleave to her as her husband. I am purposed be the Visionary of this family developing the ability to navigate us through uncertainty.  I must know where I am going and how I will get there. I must understand the relentless effort it will take and know that I will be challenged to quit. But I cannot allow the head to be removed leaving the body to drift aimlessly. I must, for the sake of my wife, run towards a goal with fierce ambition.  Satisfying her is my responsibility.  I must position myself to provide spiritually, financially, emotionally and physically. It will be impossible for me to do this buried under the agendas that are forced into my life just to provide in that one specified area of life.  Especially while this provisionary sustenance is limited to someone’s opinion of my value.  I need to become, while I have strength and life, the one helping secure our lives now for the future. My marriage should not be an component of debt nor acclimated to tiresome getaways never experiencing a real vacation.  To be stress less is a major key to happiness and happiness along with early retirement is what I desire to gift myself and my wife with. 

 

I Am a Father – I have 3 small children depending and watching my every move. My goal as a father first guaranteeing that all their needs are present. The second goal is preparing and securing their futures for their futures. I refuse to wonder if college or even a choice of college is an option. As a father I must create an income that will ensure if my grave finds me early my kids will know all needs are met. I desire to finance their dreams along with mine. I need them to see that building is possible and not just dreaming. Entrepreneurship is accesses limitless possibilities and will build a residual beyond myself and becomes a resource for my children. I need them to see success demonstrated in their home and break the cycle of struggle! I have a responsibility to protect my family and position us in the best place for continued growth and personal well-being.

 

I Am a Pastor – I have always resented the idea of preaching hope and struggling behind it.  “Let there be light” Light that people around me can be inspired to live life to the fullest.  Light that won’t cause fear of growth or stepping out beyond the artificial safety of normal and familiar.  I am in pursuance of the manifestation of God’s blessing in all that I put my hands to do.  It’s vital that my testimony of God’s blessing be made open, visible and transparent, so that those who are hungry for me may believe. I thank God that have joy and peace but God as much desires that I also experience wealth and wellness in every area of my life.

 

I am a Son – Let me be the son that makes my father prouder than he already is. As a black man our fathers long to see us find success in this world that has been so cruel and eager to those that have carried this color of skin in times past.  He longs to see me find success in my home, family and ministry. As an individual he wants to see me go much further than opportunities presented to him. Building a Residual income, creating multiple streams of income is the way to do it.

 

I am an Individual – Everyone who wants anything out of life is searching for something that can make them somebody with value.  I have a countless list of failures in my past and I am eager to represent my life in a different manner. I have a need to grow in the “accomplishments section” of my life.  I have too many dreams that haven’t been fulfilled and I refuse to die with them.  To be able to work in ministry full time is a must because that is what fulfills me.  I live with a servant’s heart and seeing the needs of others impresses on me sense of urgency to make a difference. My heart benefits tremendously when I see others benefit from demonstration of love.

 

The highest quality of me is met when achieving what those who have gone before me have not and what those who are with me wish to achieve. The highest quality of me is the man who helps others achieve beyond what their present potential suggests of them.  When I have learned to soar above where the trials, troubles and distractions of life would rather keep me grounded I have achieved the highest quality of me.  This includes placing the success of others as a priority since I have no desire to rise alone so that we all reach glory as one. That’s what I live for. That is my “WHY.”  I believe if I live and work at the highest quality of me today, I know I will reach the highest quality of me that I dream of.  

I’d like to know what it is that motivates you. When is the last time you thought about your “why?” Maybe, just maybe it’s time to revisit why you do what you do or why you should do what you haven’t done. 

 God Bless You, 

Aquila T Carmon

The One Thing I Can NOT Live Without

As I grew up hearing about eternal or everlasting life these words always seemed to gain a connotation that would relate to the afterlife or life after death. We die then our soul passes to eternal life, in heaven with the Father. While this teaching is partly true in context, isn’t it imperative to grasp the understanding, meaning and necessity of everlasting life as it applies heavily and deeply to our earthly lives. Not only after our soul departs from the body but while warm blood flows in and through our veins. Everlasting life is God’s response when praying, “Lord let your will be done on earth just as it is in heaven.” Everlasting life is not more about the quantity or the length of life as it is about the quality or the depth of life.

The depth of my life is vital to me because my greatest fear is dying without chasing destiny down, satisfying my calling and birthing God given dreams. We should not be comfortable with passing  through this life without grabbing hold of all that God has for us.

Oswald Chambers wrote “Our destiny is to work out what God works in. It is not that our eternal salvation depends upon our doing it, but our value to God does and also our position in the Kingdom of God.”

What is accomplished, where we end up, the significance and impact of our journey depends not necessarily where you are right now but what you have access to. John 3:16 says “God sent His only begotten son so that those who believe in Him will not perish but have Everlasting Life” (PRESENTLY). Everlasting Life is something that dives beneath the surface of man. By nature it must dwell in the most shameful, nontransparent, conflicting places of man with the intent of influencing our nature to duplicate its own. Everlasting life is a continuation of the work Jesus finished on the cross. You see, the surface shows smiles but beneath the smile is loneliness. Surface shows willingness to love but love is limited because in the depths of us stand walls surrounding the heart. Yes, if visible the depths of the heart display resentment, selfishness, and thoughts not quite lined up with all the righteousness we speak about. At times we pray to a mighty God yet fight to maintain unmighty faith. At times searching for promise but down deep past the surface, past the layers wrestling to retain hope forcing belief, not yet fully realizing, that at some point God will faithfully answer prayer. The surface and the depths together may form the person but are very distant in nature . It’s true, we are made with a soul, flesh and spirit but what each one desires, prefers, and needs are not one in the same. The surface of man is flesh but the soul of man lives in the depths. The soul cannot drink a glass of water and no longer thirst. What the soul needs can’t come from multiple sources. Although we try to quench the thirst of the soul with sex, money and drugs we will take the drugs and still wake up broken, have sex and get up still desolate and make the money and still go through life empty. Understand that to have all is nothing without the water Jesus speaks of in John 4:13-14 “Jesus answered and said to her, everyone that drinks of this water will never thirst again but whosoever drinks of the water that I give him shall never thirst again but the wat that I give him shall become in him a well of water springing up unto eternal life”

Everlasting life is not the inhabitance where we dwell with God, it is the place that God comes to dwell with us in which we become the environment while God exists as the atmosphere. Looking at the context of the word “believe in Him” from its original form translates believes as “into” or “In Him” The soul Our Creator placed in us deals with the perplexities and conflicts of sinful flesh but also is the temple that calls out to God connecting our spirit with His Spirit confirming His existence as a reality as we receive Him and He receives us. Everlasting life is a present, prevailing state of God’s light and life manifesting His glory within us and through us as we live in Him.

John 5: 24 “Verily, verily, I say unto you, He that heareth my word, and believeth on him that sent me, hath everlasting life, and shall not come into condemnation; but is passed from death unto life.” Everlasting life must be present before death in order to pass from death unto life.
John 6:27 “Labour not for the meat which perisheth, but for that meat which endureth unto everlasting life, which the Son of man shall give unto you: for him hath God the Father sealed. It is not the physical thing you must work hard to maintain, rather it’s the life that God has given, the purpose, the soul. The focus should be Lord let me be filled with you because your life is the key to my life.
John 6:47 “Verily, verily, I say unto you, He that believeth on me hath everlasting life.” He that is in God has it, You have everlasting life!

What is Everlasting Life? It is the one thing I cannot live without! It is the life of God working through throughout to develop you into who you were born to be. Everlasting life means Endless, perpetual, eternal, timeless, constancy, No matter what changes on the surface, the depths of who you continues to define who you are. It’s the reason the body breaks down and the soul remains whole. Your circumstances change but your faith remains strong. Everything on the surface is chaos but you remain at peace. Everlasting life passes through realms without impact of time in every sense of the word time. It passes from Heaven to Earth and from death to afterlife unstopped and without change of direction. Only with Our Heavenly Father’s instructions to belong to you and connect you with Him. Everlasting means to endure all things meaning it is indestructible incorruptible, and continuing indefinitely. You cannot be broken, you’re in God and God is in you!

Everlasting life awakens your inner man by allowing God’s light in you to illuminate all truths. The good, the bad, the ugly and whatever else that may come with who you are. Causing you to deal with your issues, to deal with your unforgiveness, to deal with what needs to be delivered, to deal with your shortcomings by connecting you with the Power of God’s amazing grace. The power that shows you how God’s real love can know the depths  of your issues and still love you past it. The power that searches your depths and see the part of you that loves sin yet still gift you with a gift and use you to change somebody else’s life. It digs past what people see, what people heard about you, what your resume says, past what you drive and how you dress. Hold on, Let me pause and shout for a moment…!!! Everlasting life can’t be fooled. It knows you look real nice today yet it’s in there digging through the depths or your heart and soul like ghost busters in the sewer filled with pink slime. Digging through pain, addiction, disobedience, fear, hatred, racism and all that type of stuff that offends people like when you let things out of yourself in the car and refuse to roll down a window like it smells good. Digging through it so it can work in you and through you changing you and molding you so your life can add value and glory to God’s Kingdom just the way He intended.

God sent everlasting life to recover the fall of the human spirit.
To restore the hope of a suicidal world
To provide recompense for the sins of men
To reconcile our relationship with The Father
To show us the depth of our life. That life’s deeper than what is visible. To prove that in the depth of your life is where you find the meaning of life.
That its not about getting through the day but living life through the day.

When we dig into our life searching for answers God gives them to us from the depths of who we are. Everlasting life comes as a gift. God hand delivers it to us custom packaged underneath the chest of His only begotten son, released by the dying words of Jesus when he cried “It is finished.” We received this give humble and eager, ready to unwrap the power, passion, purpose and the path of our destiny.

So, its not just about who we love but how we love. Not what I sacrificed but why I sacrificed.
It’s not about who wronged us but how quickly we forgave.

It is my decision to believe in Him because of the benefit of the everlasting life that reaches the depth of who I am and shows me the way.
Leading me through an unperfect marriage. Leading me through the challenges of ministry, leading me through the uncertainties of life but when my soul cries from the depths, everlasting life is already there to attend to the call of my soul.
Psalms 119:143 “Trouble and Anguish have taken hold of me, yet thy commandments are my delight”.

I have a question for you. Have you accepted it? Are you living your life in Him with access to this everlasting life?
Will you risk losing all you think you are to know all of who you are by giving Him your whole life and allowing God to work in the depth of your life, by looking past the surface and becoming brave enough to trust God’s ability to use you and your life for His purpose.

By His Spirit,

Aquila T Carmon

A Father’s Word

The Power of a Father’s Word  *Isaac’s Blessing over Jacob*

Genesis 27:27-29

 So he went to him and kissed him. When Isaac caught the smell of his clothes, he blessed him and said,

“Ah, the smell of my son
is like the smell of a field
that the Lord has blessed.
28 May God give you heaven’s dew
and earth’s richness—
an abundance of grain and new wine.

29 May nations serve you
and peoples bow down to you.
Be lord over your brothers,
and may the sons of your mother bow down to you.
May those who curse you be cursed
and those who bless you be blessed.

 

This story teaches us how a Father must be careful of how his “word” is used and how it is directed.  A father’s word contains the power to speak over his family and totally shift a thing that is out of balance into balance or something that is in balance to become out of balance. In Isaac’s case he shifted the birthright of his sons from the older to the younger without intention.  A father’s word needs to be certain before it is spoken.  A father’s word plays the role of the bow as well as the arrow.  It sets things in place like a bow sets an arrow. Then once the word is released if aimed correctly it can save a life at the exact same time it’s taking one.  A father’s word has the ability to encourage or tare down.  It has the power to lift up or to discourage. A father’s word must be directed with intention.  Its one of the reasons the father should speak the least in the house. His words need to be strategic, thoughtful, and thought provoking.  A father must understand that the power in a father’s word can not be mishandled. There are four things a father’s word has the power to do that I see in this blessing that Isaac spoke of Jacob.

 

 A Father’s Word has the power to:

  1. Confirms his son’s position as blessed

When we speak over the lives of our children we must be able to see what hasn’t been seen yet and through our words guide them to a place of authority, power and blessing. Speak Blessing into the lives of your children.

  1. Declares the presence of overflow

  It doesn’t matter about your background, where you are from, your current title or status.  Too many times a father can judge where their children will be based solely on what they have or have not accomplished. Declare that your children will live their lives in a place of overflow.  Declare they will find favor with God in their finances and well being through connections and resources.

  1. Provides Perspective on who His child is

Father’s must be very careful what we speak and how we speak to our children.  The name we call them by becomes the name they wear.  Even when they make wrong decisions, we must remind our sons and daughters that they are royalty and that their lives are necessary and full of purpose. We must constantly guide the thoughts of our children by speaking positivity and encouragement to them.  Sharing God’s word and wisdom with them daily. 

  1. Speaks into existence spiritual power providing protection and Success

As Father we must always pray for our children.  There is a real enemy that is committed to destroying the life and soul of our children. Faithfulness in prayer and active parental is necessary to cover our children.  We must constantly guide the thoughts of our children by speaking positivity and encouragement to them.  Sharing God’s word and wisdom with them daily.